Posted by Betsy in
Migraine on 08 17th, 2009 |
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Would the migraine world be much different if migraine hadn’t been so invisible for so many years? If it hadn’t been considered a woman’s ‘headache,’ particularly because often it was wrapped around hormones and the menstrual cycle? If more men had migraine disease or more men had spoken up about it over the years? If women had been more vocal and assertive – or aggressive – about their real symptoms? If Virginia Woolf, Joan Didion and others had been men?
Yes, it would.
I was raised as a good little Midwestern girl, to be seen and not heard, to have a superwoman’s work ethic, an obligation to help others and to be responsible and accountable for my actions. Not that any of these things are bad, just that for 15 years or so, this is why I listened to doctors who said my horrible ‘headache’ attacks were just a part of menstruation, that I needed to relax and ‘stroke my chin’ so I wouldn’t develop ulcers to go with that ‘headache.’
All those years of hearing in some way or another that migraine was my doing – you need more exercise, more sleep, better food, more relaxation, change your personality – blah, blah, blah… while I stoically suffered through too many two-to-three-day sick episodes per month with pain, nausea, diarrhea, and life between two sheets in a dark room with my friends, the ice packs and vomit buckets. (more…)